It started with scrambled eggs...or at least, trying to make scrambled eggs.
I was on my own with three of the kids after a long roadtrip with them (I know, what was I thinking?!) and we arrived home late. I sorted out the kids meals (sigh, they wanted hamburgers from a drivethrough place; I pick my battles) and then set about to make myself scrambled eggs. Simple, easy, nutritious, right?
Well...the baby wanted picked up. My youngest son wanted help with lego, and so on and so on. Welcome to normal life, right? In that moment I realised that: (1) it would be really easy to reach for something simple and not nutritious and (2) making something for myself that was nutritious (or, actually, even that I wanted!!) required me to "fight" for myself and to dogged focus on taking care of myself DESPITE the other pulls on my attention.
I've been thinking a lot about self-care and what self-care isn't. It isn't about spending lots of money and doing what those with commercial interests tell us we "should" be doing. It is about taking care of our needs and looking out for ourselves. To get there, though, I think many of us have to overcome some mental blocks like various stories we have grown up with and absorbed. I've started calling the beliefs that enable self-care, mental self-care. For example, the belief that what I wanted to eat was important and that I was allowed to focus on my needs.